“Someone else’s action should not determine your response.”
“Instead of wondering WHY this is happening to you, consider why this is happening to YOU.”
Two quotes from HH the 14^th Dalai Lama

The Dalai Lama is 80 and has not slowed down or lessened his efforts on behalf of his stated three main commitments: 1.) Promoting the human values of compassion, forgiveness, tolerance, contentment and self-discipline; 2.) Promoting religious harmony and understanding among the world’s major religious traditions. (His web site elaborates, “Despite philosophical differences, all major world religions have the same potential to create good human beings.”); 3.) As a Tibetan and the spiritual leader of Tibet, the Dalai Lama’s third commitment is to preserve Tibet’s Buddhist culture of peace and non-violence.
Though the Dalai Lama represents the best of an ancient culture and viewpoint on human life (peace and non-violence), he is a futurist, an enlightened man who has written that modern science and the ancient practice of contemplation. “…share significant commonalities especially in their basic philosophical outlook and methodology. On the philosophical level, both Buddhism and modern science share a deep suspicion of any notion of absolutes, whether conceptualized as a transcendent being, as an eternal, unchanging principle such as soul, or as a fundamental substratum of reality. Both Buddhism and science prefer to account for the evolution and emergence of the cosmos and life in terms of the complex interrelations of the natural laws of cause and effect. From the methodological perspective, both traditions emphasize the role of empiricism. For example, in the Buddhist investigative tradition, between the three recognized sources of knowledge‑‑experience, reason and testimony‑‑it is the evidence of the experience that takes precedence, with reason coming second and testimony last. This means that, in the Buddhist investigation of reality, at least in principle, empirical evidence should triumph over scriptural authority, no matter how deeply venerated a scripture may be.”
Empirical evidence as well as common sense confirm peace and non-violence as preferable to conflict and brutality and in 1989 the Dalai Lama was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize. He was among the first to show that peace and non-violence are available to every person and thereby the entire world.
In 2005 he addressed the annual meeting of the Society for Neuroscience in Washington, D.C. despite the protest of a few hundred of its 35,000 members who objected to a religious leader at a scientific meeting. But more than a decade earlier after observing a brain surgery he asked the surgeons “Can mind shape brain matter.” That is, it has long been known that the physical condition of the brain affects the content and dynamics of mind. Can the mind, in turn, alter the brain?”
Though William James in the 19^th century and subsequent scientists had suggested the possibility, no one before the Dalai Lama had proposed that question and asked science for an answer.
The answer, under the umbrella name of ‘neuroplasticity,’ is ‘yes.’ A mind devoted to compassion, forgiveness, tolerance, contentment, self-discipline, religious harmony, peace and non-violence can shape its brain the same. Think of that. HH the Dalai Lama does.